Not Who You Remember

 “I Know Her!” Respectfully? No, You Don’t.

People throw around familiarity like it’s currency - "I know her,” “That’s my girl,” “We go way back”, but here’s the truth:

If someone hasn’t checked in, shown up or grown with you in the last three to six months, they don’t know you.

They might know an older version of you. They might be familiar with a chapter you've already closed, but they shouldn’t mistake memory for proximity or confuse shared history with current relevance.

You've been growing, evolving, healing.
And growth? It changes people. Pain changes people, but healing - that really changes people.

So when someone says, “I know her,” they need to ask themselves:

• Did they check in when she went quiet?

• Have they shown up - not just during the highlights, but in the quiet, messy, uncertain middle?

• Have they allowed their understanding of her to evolve, as she has?

Because if not, then - respectfully - they don’t know you.
They knew a moment, a memory, a version that served its time and that’s okay.

This isn’t about bitterness - it’s about clarity.
You don't owe everyone access just because they once had it.
Familiarity isn’t the same as intimacy.
Proximity isn’t the same as presence.

So let’s be real.
To truly know you now means approaching you with curiosity, not assumptions.
It means checking in, showing up and being open to who you are becoming, because “I know her” hits different when it’s actually true.

Here’s to the ones who grow with you - not just remember who you used to be.