Desires vs Needs
Learning to Listen Beneath the Surface We all experience moments when we want something deeply. A new relationship, a different job, recognition, success, rest, comfort or control. Sometimes we call these needs, when in reality they may be desires. Other times, what appears to be a simple desire is actually pointing toward a much deeper unmet need. Learning to tell the difference can change the way we make decisions, respond to emotions and care for ourselves. The challenge is that our deeper needs are often hidden beneath our immediate reactions. Before we can identify them, we first need to slow down and notice what's happening within us. One helpful way to slow down and become more aware is through the SIFT practice. What is SIFT? SIFT is a simple mindfulness tool developed by psychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel. It encourages us to notice what is happening within us before reacting automatically. SIFT stands for: S — Sense What am I noticing in my body? Perhaps your shoulders are tens...
