Through Perspective

Understanding Perspective Without Making Others Wrong

I was sitting with my laptop, working on the newsletter for Redeeming Love, when Nico walked in and casually said, “I really like your laptop. That purple colour looks nice.”

I smiled and thanked him, then replied, “It’s actually pink.”

Almost immediately, Liezle, who was sitting across from me, looked up and said, “No… it looks maroon to me.”

Three people. One laptop. Three completely different perspectives and honestly?
None of us were wrong.

That moment stayed with me, because it felt like such a powerful picture of life itself and it inspired this blog.

So often we argue over perspectives as if only one person can possibly be correct.
We become defensive when someone sees a situation differently than we do. We assume disagreement means opposition, but sometimes people are simply viewing the same thing from different angles, through different lighting, different experiences, different emotions and different histories.

The laptop never changed colour.
What changed was the way each person perceived it.

Life works the same way...

One person may see caution while another sees fear.
One may see confidence while another sees arrogance.
One may see wisdom while another sees limitation.

Perspective is shaped by so many things:

• upbringing
• trauma
• personality
• culture
• experiences
• emotional state
• timing
• environment

Two people can walk through the exact same storm and walk away with completely different interpretations of what happened. That does not automatically make one wise and the other foolish. It simply means they experienced it differently.

This is where compassion becomes important.

Not every disagreement needs to become a battle about who is right.
Sometimes understanding begins when we stop trying to prove our perspective and start trying to understand someone else’s.

That does not mean truth does not exist.
It does not mean everything is relative.
It simply means human beings are complex and our viewpoints are often limited by what we personally see.

The world becomes gentler when we learn to say:
“I may not see it the way you do, but I can understand why you do.”

Imagine how many relationships could heal if we listened more instead of immediately correcting. Imagine how many conflicts could soften if we approached conversations with curiosity instead of defensiveness.

Perspective teaches humility, because sometimes the thing that looks purple to you really does look pink to someone else… and maroon to another.

Maybe the goal is not always to convince others to see exactly what we see. Perhaps it is simply to remember that different viewpoints do not automatically make people wrong. Maybe before we rush to correct someone, we should pause long enough to consider that they may simply be seeing life from a different angle than we are.

Not every difference in perspective needs division. Sometimes it is an invitation to listen deeper, love better and lead with more grace.

The world does not need more people determined to be right all the time.
It needs more people willing to understand.

So the next time someone sees “purple” where you see “pink,” remember — perspective is powerful and kindness in disagreement can change everything.

With you on the journey,
– Storm Reagan
Life Coach | Lived Experience Guide